My Expat Life

I currently call Singapore home. Over the last decade I have spent a few years living in Sydney, the Cayman Islands (a tiny island in the Caribbean) and more recently Perth. I have learnt through all the moves, the adjustments and opportunities to form new and lasting friendships that it doesn’t really matter where I live, your experience is really what you make of it.

To make life as an expat work there is one golden rule: You need to have the mindset that this is HOME. Don’t think you can completely replicate your old life. Don’t keep wishing all your family and friends lived closer. Don’t keep trying to think of excuses to head home for long trips. Don’t count down the years you expect to be here. It is hard, but as soon as you accept that this home, the rest can fall into place. You will still miss your friends and family. But you will make new friends. Thanks to the glorious advances in technology, there are a plethora of ways you can keep in touch with your family. You can (hopefully) head home frequently enough for quality time with those dearest to you.

I loved living in Perth. We had family there, close friends, a lovely house. And Perth is a beautiful city. The weather is gorgeous most of the year. So when a career opportunity based in Singapore presented itself to my husband Mark, it took a lot of discussion, and weighing up of pros and cons before we made the decision to relocate.

We have now been living here for over a year. The move came not without its challenges. A new-born and toddler in a new country made it difficult for me to get out to make new friends initially. I found an amazing number of mothers groups, toddler groups, music and gym classes, however a lot were at conflicting times to one or both of the boys nap times, or around the time of Xavier’s preschool pick up. But, after making it through the mist and fog of the new-born stage, Marcel, Xavier and I have hit a groove. Xavier has made some gorgeous little friends, loves his preschool, and has settled into life here amazingly well. Marcel is a contented little guy, at the age where everyday brings a new discovery. I have found new pursuits, new friends, new activities for the boys, a new routine. I’ve put myself out there, organised catch ups with other mums, found some new favourite cafes, an exercise class I enjoy (as much as I can really enjoy exercise!), and even joined a choir. I’ve learnt how to navigate the traffic here. I’ve found some beautiful places. I’ve put down roots.

Singapore is ace.

My Neo Life

AN

xo

15 Comments

  1. Sounds like you have adapted well to your new life!

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    1. Thanks Amanda! Singapore is a great place for a young family.

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  2. Hey! So happy I clicked on your profile and found out you live in Singapore now! I was partially raised in Singapore and I loved every bit of it (but maybe not the humidity?). Your kids are going to have such a multicultural view of the world!

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    1. Yes, Singapore is great (the humidity isn’t!). This is such a great experience for our boys, very lucky.

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  3. Hey, my son is also named Xavier, and we’ve lived as nomads/expats for a decade until we came back to roost in Singapore. Hope you are enjoying your stay here in this sunny island!!

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    1. What a coincidence! Definitely enjoying it here, such a great place for young kiddies.

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  4. ssamhita

    Chanced upon your blog because you landed on mine (love how that works!) Love how you put to words all that goes into living an expat life. We have been moving way too much for our comfort but yes, getting into the groove here. Finding people whose company you like helps too! Cheers to the Singapore life!

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  5. Saw that you checked out my blog and I was checking out yours – love it! I especially think this quote hits home and really makes you think “To make life as an expat work there is one golden rule: You need to have the mindset that this is HOME. Don’t think you can completely replicate your old life. Don’t keep wishing all your family and friends lived closer. Don’t keep trying to think of excuses to head home for long trips. Don’t count down the years you expect to be here. It is hard, but as soon as you accept that this home, the rest can fall into place.” You are so right – something to really think about as I believe that we are always trying to replicate what we perceive as home.

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    1. Thank you Julie! It’s always hard to be somewhere new and unfamiliar, but with the right mindset it can become a special place 🙂

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      1. Reading that, despite living in 2 countries over the last 5 1/2 years, was totally my ah ha moment. It’s amazing what a few words can do to change your perspective. 🙂

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  6. Wow, thanks so much for sharing a little bit of your story with us!

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    1. thanks for reading 😉

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  7. Congrats to adapting so well to your new life in Singapore. Thanks for sharing 🙂

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    1. Glad you enjoyed! Thanks Juliet 🙂

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  8. Awww as a Singaporean (though not living in Singapore!) am glad to read this and here you’ve put down roots! 🙂 Thanks for liking my post btw 🙂

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